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Help! My Client Is Single and Pregnant. What Do I Do Now?

April 2012
By: Elaine Ham

Every client advocate who has ever counseled in a pregnancy center knows the sudden rush of fear that envelops us when a young, single client learns she is pregnant. We ask a question such as, "What are your plans for your baby's future?" and pray that whatever she says will not include the word "abortion." The bad news is that her response almost always does include the "a" word, whether she's just thinking about it or she has already made the decision to abort. As Paul said in Romans 3:23, "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Without a relationship with Christ, neither we nor our clients will ever make godly decisions.


The good news is that no matter what has happened in her past, God loves her unconditionally and showed that love by giving His Son to die on a cross for her so that her sins might be forgiven. But how do we go about sharing that without causing offense or watching her make a quick exit from the counseling room? We know the comfort she is seeking and the answers she needs are found only in the loving arms of our Savior, Jesus Christ; yet we also have another voice speaking into our ear telling us not to go there, she would probably say no or think we're a religious fanatic.

When God called me into the pregnancy center ministry 16 years ago, I heard that same voice and felt those same insecurities. The difference between then and now is that I didn't recognize the source of the voice, and I spent nearly a year running away from God's call. Thanks to the wisdom of a godly pastor, I finally understood that those discouraging thoughts were intended to distract me from hearing God's voice and sharing the good news of Jesus Christ with those in need of God's amazing grace.

If you have experienced the forgiveness and all-consuming love of God that can be received only through believing in Christ alone for salvation, you are in the counseling room because God has placed you there for the purpose of sharing that message with broken women who are looking for answers. You have been given the privilege by God to deliver His message of grace to your client and to lead her into God's presence. In so doing, you have also given her the comfort and hope she is really seeking that will allow her to choose life for her unborn child.

Where do you start? Perhaps with these words: "May I ask you a question? Has anyone ever taken a Bible and shown you how you can know for sure that you're going to heaven? May I?" You will soon find you are in for the most exciting experience of your life.

We are eternally blessed that God has allowed us to share His love with others. But we must remember that when we share God's plan of salvation, whether at a pregnancy center or talking with a neighbor, He is the one who will work in their hearts and lead them to faith in Christ. Our call is to be faithful to sow the seeds and then trust God to use the person He chooses to reap the harvest. Sometimes that person will be you. Sometimes it will be the twelfth person down the line. The link in the chain is not what's important. All that matters is our faithfulness in loving our neighbor—and our clients—enough to open our mouths and let God's words of love and grace flow out.

Elaine Ham is Founder and PRC Business Coach for Plans For You, Inc., a consulting company she and her husband Tom founded in 2000 to train and assist pro-life organizations. The highly successful company has helped raise over $65,000,000 in operational funds for over 1,300 organizations through their Baby Bottle Boomerang program. Elaine trains pregnancy centers in evangelism, fundraising, board management, and other areas tailored to fit your center's needs. Elaine is a Master Instructor with EvanTell/SMSC and a Life Affirming Specialist with Heartbeat International.She can be reached at or by calling 770-401-5216. Elaine and her husband Tom live in the Atlanta area and have two children and two grandchildren.

Permission was granted for the use of the article entitled, "Sharing a Message of Grace," written by Elaine M. Ham, that appeared on EvanTell's Save the Mother, Save Her Child website.

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