How do you view the ministry of your center? Is your center an oasis only to those who are facing an unplanned pregnancy and to the mothers who come to you for material needs? What about the other women in tough situations who are hurting and need a shoulder to cry on? Could your PCC also be reaching out and ministering to those at the other end of the spectrum — those who are barren and cry out to the Lord to be blessed with children? Could you be ministering to those who desire to have children and have experienced the loss of a miscarriage?
We live in dark times. Life is not valued. It is discarded without a second thought. For those facing the loss of a miscarriage, this is an extremely lonely and heartbreaking time. Society does not acknowledge that the child you recently carried in your womb was a life. We are taught from an early age in our public schools that this was simply a mass of tissues, not a life. The woman and partner are now left to mourn their loss in private.
As an individual who experienced this loss and loneliness firsthand, I encourage you to reach out to these hurting individuals. May you be a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold, and a voice of truth in a dark valley!
FOR THOSE FACING THE LOSS OF A MISCARRIAGE, THIS IS AN EXTREMELY LONELY AND HEARTBREAKING TIME.
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God." (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)
I recently watched a documentary, Aborted Sun: Finding Hope After Miscarriage and Abortion. You may wonder, as I initially did, what miscarriage and abortion have in common. Through this documentary, I was able to see that the parents of an aborted child and the parents of a miscarried child are both mourning the loss of their child. They are both experiencing extreme grief, often in seclusion.
"If you experience your loss through miscarriage and you're looking at someone else who has experienced it through abortion and you start to quantify it, then I think that's where you start looking at the route they've taken and not look at the loss that they've experienced."1
Pregnancy Resource Centers reach out to offer support to those hurting and grieving from past abortions. But are you also reaching out to those who are hurting from a spontaneous abortion, often preferably called a miscarriage?2 I agree with the sentiments of one young lady who experienced a miscarriage in the documentary Aborted Sun. She stated, "I think that the need that's there for women who have experienced miscarriage is the same need that's there for support for women who have experienced abortion."3 These women are both experiencing the loss of a child and sharing a lot of the same pain.
As I look back at that time in my life, I see it entrenched with emotions I had never felt or experienced before. I experienced the love and support of my family, but most importantly I experienced the LOVING ARMS of our Heavenly Father. God may not spare us from these situations, but He will walk these paths with us. "It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not leave you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed." (Deuteronomy 31:8)
I had the love and support of my family and church, but what about those who don't have this support? What about those who do not know about the loving arms of our Lord and Savior? Where can these individuals go? To what and whom can they cling? It's in these low times when one can truly experience GOD's love.
I encourage you to get a copy of the documentary Aborted Sun. After watching it, I now am able to see a connection between abortion and miscarriage that I was unaware existed until recently. I encourage you, as a PCC, to reach out to those who have experienced a miscarriage. As the gentleman in the documentary pointed out, let's not focus on the route an individual took but rather on the extreme loss they are experiencing. So let me pose the question again: How do you view the ministry of your center? Is your center an oasis to those who are hurting?
Amanda Naugle, Director of Research and Technology for Right Ideas, Inc., is the Assistant Editor for At the Center. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
1 Aborted Sun: Finding Hope After Miscarriage and Abortion, (DVD), Lifestreams Media, Inc., Chris Lang, Director, 2012.
2 "Miscarriage," Wikipedia, The Free Encyclopedia, Wikimedia Foundation, Inc., July 20, 2012. Web.
3 Aborted Sun: Finding Hope After Miscarriage and Abortion, (DVD), Lifestreams Media, Inc., Chris Lang, Director, 2012.
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